YEARNING FOR AN IDEAL END..

Losing someone dear in life is tragic and it is difficult to bear such a loss; which remains etched in the memory for times to come. Every human being desires to always remain in the shadow of the dear ones and wishes that he/she never loses them, but that is not how it is meant to be. We all must understand that in the wake of our emotions we cannot become selfish; thinking of just our loss and not thinking what the other person might go thru. Ideally speaking no one should get into any kind of suffering; physical or psychological, because it is difficult to bear it. The physical suffering comes out of the bodily pains and the degeneration that occurs because of natural ageing. While the psychological pains occur because of the inability to be self-dependent.

All of us spend our entire life on our own terms, with a set pattern of living; which is full of rigidities and is strictly within our own thinking gamut, but then there might come a time in life when we may have to undergo drastic physical changes that leaves us dependent on others; bringing us to the worst stage of life. It is an agony both for the sufferer and for the ones who are fostering them. The irony is that no money or power can prevent this from happening if it is destined to happen. Money can give best treatment and care but it cannot prevent the fated. No matter who you are or how resourceful you are, everyone has to pay back for what they have done in this life or in the past.

When we are in our prime, we never realize the wrongs that we keep committing each hour. We never contemplate the repercussions of our wrong-doings in this life or in the past. But when we reach the later stages of our life and are gripped by illness, that is the time ,we are forced to think on this subject. The worst though is that most of the people don’t have such realizations even after facing immense turbulence in life.

An ideal person, who has always indulged in good karmas, has a pious thought process, has the true awareness of the realities of life and is a firm believer of God, never gets into the suffering mode and gets a peaceful end. He has to never depend on anyone and is able to take care of the self till the last day of life. And that is what an ideal death is; a person lives a fulfilling life and receives a befitting end. The complete surrender and belief in God makes sure that there is no suffering in life or even at the end and one gets a respectable death and embraces the same with utter grace.

We should eulogize such deaths and pray to God that even we receive such an end, where there is no suffering and no dependence on anybody till the last breath we breathe.

Mamta Sehgal.

LOVE

What is Love?

It is beautiful feeling which always leaves you with a smile and makes you laugh on the smallest of things.

Love takes away all your woes and brings you in a different world where nothing else matters .

Love takes away all the hatred and just knows affection.

Love brings you to a different space where you only see brightness,colors and cheerfulness.

Love has no boundaries and sees no bars.

With so many qualities love is truly an expression of God,a language of God, a music to the ears and light to the eyes.It is a divine fragrance which spreads around you and fulfills your life.

Mamta Sehgal

LIFE IS WHAT HAPPENS TO YOU WHEN YOU ARE BUSY MAKING OTHER PLANS!

`Life is what happens to you when you are busy making other plans.’What a beautiful quote by John Lennon and so very true.

In life, all of us remain in a constant thinking mode, stressing our minds on thousands of subjects; most of which being irrelevant. We keep harping on so many unknown events or problems we might have to face in future. We plan years ahead and while we are busy doing all that, life is running its own picture; making us a spectator of an unforeseen storyline. It throws such challenges on us which are nowhere in our scheme of things, but that is what the real life is; unknown & unclear and the sooner we understand this fact the better it is for us.

It happens to each one of us but we still fail to reckon with this truth. Bhagavad Gita says, `not a blade of grass moves, if it is not HIS will.’ That is why stressing the mind too much on wasteful assumptions is senseless.

The other day, I watched a movie where the protagonist had a breakup and thus gets disillusioned and looses all her vigor to do anything new in life. But life had other plans for her. She was a baker and received an invitation to participate in a baking competition. At first she refused, but then on her friends insistence decided to go. Here she meets her identical twin; a princess who was due to get married to the prince of the state. The princess wanted to live a commoners’ life and requests the girl to switch her life with her for just two days, as she shared the similar looks with her. After a lot of resistance, she agrees; not imagining what was in store for her.

During the brief interaction, the prince falls in love with her and there is an exchange of real emotions between the two.

After two days though,as decided, they switched on to their real lives and are left in the dilemmas. They had no choice but to share the truth with the prince, who happily accepted the reality as he was also bitten by the charm of the girl. Hence, a girl who was utterly disenchanted in life, would have never in her dreams thought that life was planning such a wondrous turnaround for her. But that was all for real.

This is the reality of life; when we are expecting particular events or are planning for other things in life, it throws the unexpected on us (good as well as bad) and that is what the real life is; totally unimaginable. We ignore the present in wake of planning for future, sulk at things not happening our way, get stressed by so many unimportant issues but undeterred by what we do or think, life takes its own course and displays what is in store for us.Thus, without getting anxious about future, we should display forbearance and understand the phenomenon called `Life’.

Mamta Sehgal.

LIVE LIKE A CHILD

We should never let the child within us take a back seat in life, because it is only that childlike innocence which keeps us vibrant ,otherwise growing old is all about stress ,dullness and fear;fear of all that is just an illusion.

When we grow old we start taking life too seriously and forget to live,to laugh and enjoy the smallest of the things which a child does and that is how we make the precious moments of life which God has bestowed on us dull and lifeless.

We crib for senseless issues,cry for wasteful things and worry for meaningless events and in the end keep losing every single second of the valuable life.

Live like a child and you will realize that the life can be really beautiful.Try and do what you feel like doing,without worrying about its social repercussions. Eat what you want to without worrying much about putting on few pounds.Laugh at silly things if you wish to do so.Try and make an extra effort to meet your friends as they revive the hidden child in you.In short try to relax in life as the world would not stop progressing if it was not for you.

Mamta Sehgal

MANTRA FOR A HAPPY LIFE

Saint Kabir, the mystical poet followed the custom of giving spiritual recitals. Many people from faraway places came to hear his golden words. One day, after everyone left,a man asked Kabir, “I am a householder and have a big family and each day I get into a tussle with someone or the other which leads to a total chaos in the house. I want to know the reason for this discord  and the ways to  improve the situation?”

Saint Kabir kept mum and a moment later asked his wife for a lantern. Without asking any questions,his wife instantly followed the order.The man got confused and thought that why did the Saint asked for a lantern in a broad daylight.

After a little while, Kabir asked his wife to get something sweet to eat. The wife immediately got a snack,but a salty one instead of the sweet one asked  and the Saint politely accepted it. The man was absolutely puzzled, hence got up and started to leave. At this, Kabir inquired that has he got the answers to his queries or is still in doubt ?” The man annoyingly said,“I have not understood a single thing but am rather confused by the happenings.’’

Kabir started smiling and said,”Let me explain.When I had asked for a lantern , my wife could have straightaway refused as it was a day time. But she calmly obeyed ,thinking that there  might be a reason behind it .”

Similarly,when I asked for something sweet, she got a salty snack, but I kept calm ,understanding that the sweet snack might not be available. Both of us thus fully understood the reason for each other’s  behaviour and  found no reason to cross question. Resultantly, there was no conflict at all.

Mutual trust is build when there is an understanding between the family members. Instead of pinpointing and highlighting mistakes of others, one should be considerate and thoughtful, contemplating that there might be a reason behind a person’s uncalled for behaviour. If a husband commits a mistake,the wife should handle it sensibly and if a wife commits a mistake, then the husband should ignore it ;this is a mantra for a happy household.

When you make efforts to understand others , trust their point of view and refrain from forcing your opinions on them,there is a mutual respect and trust one earns .This trust prevents  situations of conflict and can create the most cordial atmosphere,both in the family as well as in the outside world.

Mamta Sehgal

THE FEMININE POWER

 

It is the time of Navratras again, the most divine and blissful nine days where the whole atmosphere is filled with piousness and devotion. It is also the time to understand the immense power of the femineity, the power of the Maa, in her many forms.g

During Navratras, people religiously read the holy book, the Durga Stuti which in its thirteen chapters explains the advent of Maa Durga and how she kills all the asuras in order to protect the Devas. The book beautifully explains that how the extremely fearful and troubled Indra, Brahma and many more devas could not handle the atrocities put upon them by the asuras and thus had to plead for the appearance of Maa, the only one, who could destroy the extremely powerful breed of rakshasas.

When Maa comes with her various forms, she kills the dangerous asuras with utmost ease and ends their barbarity towards the devas and helps them to re-occupy their respective abodes. Reading this holy book repeatedly gives a great feeling of how a feminine power which is otherwise considered gentle and docile fights the horrifying asuras fearlessly to protect the devas.

This is about the eternal and the most powerful Divine Maa, but if we see in real life too, the so called effeminate women is the actual rescuer of the family. She with all her gentleness manages all the day to day issues of the entire family ,their emotions, their well being ,the education of her kids and all this, along with her own professional , physical & psychological issues. She is expected to be a perfect multi-tasker.

Every man, whether he is a son, a husband or a lover needs the support of a woman at different stages of his life;without which he is incomplete. Thus she has to be credited and respected for all that she does for everyone and for the society at large .But sadly ,in today’s world;considering the kind of atrocities she is facing, she is immensely ill treated.

But one should never forget that like Maa Durga, every women behind her soft appearance has the powers, which if required, can destroy anybody or anything. She can be extremely caring but if her dignity and respect is at stake then she can be awfully cruel and thus should be never be underestimated and her contributions should always be acknowledged.

Mamta Sehgal.

LIFE…..

 

What is life, just a bunch of lies.

Lies which are a part of our childhood and adolescence,                                                            which everyone around us gives us.                                                                                                  The world of Barbie’s, toy trains and bedtime stories; depicting a life full of roses.

The youth is another bunch of even bigger illusions.                                                                    The unreal thoughts, feelings and inconsequential concerns.

In reality, the truth is only revealed when half the life is sealed.                                              It is then when we understand the world around us; the people, the situations and the circumstances.

And they are the ones that teach us the real lessons of life and make us truly wise .

But till then, it is too late in life.

Mamta Sehgal.

 

LIFE JUST PASSES OFF!

 

With each passing day, life just passes off.

Minute by minute,

Hour by hour,

Day by day ,

Month by month and

Year by year,life just passes off.

We never realize it every day.

But  one day when we run through the past, we realize that how much we have lost.

Both the people and  moments ;all become memories .

And we also think ,what have we gained ?

The moment brings in emotions and hollowness of the realization that we have lost the most of it and the less is left.

During the journey we never realize that how quickly the time is lost,with no control of what will come next.

Mamta Sehgal

MAKING THE RIGHT CHOICES IN LIFE!

 

It was a beautiful morning. The sky was at its best, in its various achromatic shades. The clouds were all swelled; ready to pour all they had in store. In short, everything looked perfect like an artist’s painting.

Not wanting to miss our morning walk, we readily dressed up and went ahead with our routine, before the expected downpour. The weather was so beautiful that I felt the wind caressing and kissing me, whenever I came across its path. The whole experience was simply divine. In all I had a great morning and came back refreshed.

As I sat to relax, trying to get back the lost breath, my husband asked me to call up a neighbor regarding a pending issue and I did as directed. One minute into the conversation, the lady said something extremely annoying and destroyed all the positivity that I had gathered since morning. The conversation made me furious, filling my entire body with abysmal anger. I was disturbed till the depth of my heart. I could feel the negativity disturbing the soul within, so seconds later, decided to let go the needless anger. I deliberated that I could in no way fill my conscience with negative thoughts so instantly tried to ward off the conversation from my mind.

I decided that like many others it was the last time I was talking to the lady; I could in no way let her put me into the uncalled for distress.

Instances and people; good as well as bad, will come to you each day but it is entirely your choice whether you want to pick up those that excite your spirit or the ones that disturb it. God never interferes in our choices, HE just fulfills our wishes, so if we wish to brew negativity in our mind and body than HE will let us do it, without hindering our choice. But if we choose to be high-spirited and always remain in a positive state of mind than HE will help us do that and fill our heart with goodness. The positivity will excite our soul, it will start directing us to wondrous things and let us be in the aura of goodness.

Hence, we should only respond to situations that fill our soul with positivity and excite it and ignore negative situations that cloud our rational thinking and are troublesome for both the body and the soul and thus make the right choices in life.

Mamta Sehgal.

THE MORNING GLORY

 

EVERY MORNING WHEN I RISE,                                                                                                      GRATITUDE IS THE FIRST FEELING THAT ARRIVES.

 THE FEELING OF BEEN BLESSED WITH ONE MORE DAY IN LIFE,                                             ANOTHER DAY TO SEE THE MORNING LIGHT.

THE GLOWING SUN, THE JOYFUL SKY AND THE CHEERFUL TREES.                                                                                                                                                      

THE CHIRPY BIRDS ENJOYING EVERY BIT OF THE PLEASANTNESS THE MORNING BRINGS.

THE PURE WIND HAPPILY BLOWING, CARESSING AND LOVING.

AND EACH PARTICLE DEPICTING HIS DIVINE GLORY .

 EMPTY YOURSELF FROM THE TRIVIAL THOUGHTS  AND FILL THIS PURITY IN THE BODY AND THE HEART  .

START YOUR DAY AFRESH…CAUSE YOU DO NOT KNOW WHETHER YOU WILL HAVE ANOTHER ONE OR NOT.

Mamta Sehgal