CONTROLLING WHAT WE WILL DO IN OUR OLD AGE..

When should we start becoming responsible for our acts and are totally aware of what we say and do?

There are seven stages in a human’s life-Creation or birth, Growth or childhood, Exploration or adolescence, Establishment or young adulthood, Maintenance or middle adulthood, Decline or old age and finally, Departure or death.

Around the world, as per a rough estimate, there must be about 40% humans who pass thru all the seven stages of life, but the rest just see them partially. Some witness only the first stage; they die at the time of birth. Others see only the first two stages and die in their childhood because of some birth disorders or accidents. And rest may see either three, four or five stages and may succumb to an untimely death in their adolescence, young adulthood or middle adulthood respectively and the reasons may be many; disease, freak accidents or instant or unexplained deaths.

So, it is not necessary that every human will live a complete life and will witness all stages of life. No two individuals or their lives are similar and every human leads a life which is different than the one the other human leads. Some have a smooth and comfortable life, while others keep struggling all their life and there are no valid reasons for the difference in the two lives. So no comparisons should be drawn and no questions should be asked as the truth is that each individual has to face what is written in his/her destiny. Hence, irrespective of how many years one has, all an individual needs to do is to live those years in an ideal manner, in order to accumulate good karma in this life at least.

Lucky are those who get to see all the seven stages of life and live a complete life because around the world, there are millions of people who witness a partial life and are not so fortunate to live a long, healthy, happy and a fruitful life. But out of the millions who live a complete life, how many take the benefit of such a long life? Do all of them lead a purposeful life or completely waste the opportunity which is bestowed on them?

Rightfully, when someone gets the chance to live a life in full circle, than they should take the responsibility of indulging in exemplary acts and should give special attention to their conduct. They should take a note of what they speak and do because their acts are lessons for the young and who look up to them for optimal actions. They ought to be mature enough not to indulge in anything which is unworthy. They need to live an ideal life and indulge in actions of high standards because it is only then that they will be able to fulfill the real purpose of a long life that God has bestowed on them.

Now this is a precarious situation, because as a general practice, good or bad, a human develops all the habits in his/her youth and these habits stay with the person as he/she grows in age. As a matter of fact, habits which are inculcated at a young age, if not controlled, become rigid and uncontrollable with age. There is famous saying, `Aadataan, shahadataan jaan shariraan naal’, which means that whatever habits we have in our young age, they never change and remain as it is till our old age and culminate only with our death.

Hence, it is of extreme importance that we take a note of our habits and rectify them when we are still young. We should see to it that our acts, fixations, mannerisms are ideal. We should be thoughtful of what we speak and should see to it that our words do not hurt anybody. We should also see that our conduct is not self-centered, self-focused and is not forced on others. We should not live in a superiority complex, considering others worthless and our wrong habits should not be a cause of stress for others.

We must not carry a meaningless ego and should comprehend that there is a superior power which is governing everything and nobody knows when the tables will turn and the curtains will be drawn. Hence, in case our acts are constantly creating stress for others, than we must try to change them immediately. We should be introspective and should try to improve our behavior, because if we don’t do so and keep clinging to our habits than more than anyone else we will be inflicting harm to our own self.They will become a permanent feature of our character and as we grow, their intensity will too grow.

We are able to manage with these habits in our youth, but as we grow in age and become dependent than these habits become extremely annoying and unmanageable. And then there comes a time when others’ are forced to pin-point these and it becomes a point of contention for all. We find it insulting and feel that the others are disrespectful, but in reality, that is not the case; the fact is that the degree of the wrong conduct increases so much that the others are forced to retaliate.

We are blessed with a human life for a reason; so that we get to know our real self, lead a purposeful life and understand the real purpose of our existence, which is to know the Almighty and then return to the abode of God .We can’t waste our life by living it aimlessly and engrossing ourselves in meaningless arguments and discussions and not doing anything pertinent.

However, sadly the ill habits that we develop become a part of our conduct as we grow and we start thinking that it is the right way and there is nothing wrong in our conduct and that is why there is no reason for us to change. In fact we try to force our conduct and opinions on others too and those who fail to match our levels become antipodal for us.

Sadly,this behavior takes us nowhere and we just add a bulk of bad karma in this life and face it’s consequences in this or in our next life. So, in short we waste our entire life in reckless activities.

Whatever people may say, but what people do in their old age is the reflection of what they did in their youth. If one is patient, thoughtful and considerate in the young age than they will remain the same in their old age too but if one is self-centrist, egoistic and non-considerate in his/her youth than the same behavior will be there in old-age too. And the worst is that this behavior adds to our bad karma and does not allow us to get out of the cycle of birth and death in this life and makes us liable to get a life of any one of the 84,00,000 species ;which may or may not be of a human.

So,be introspective and try and control your conduct and habits in your youth only, so that if you are blessed to reach the last stages of your life  having an ideal conduct, than you pass your old age with respect and dignity and lead a quintessential life.

Mamta Sehgal

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SRIDEVI’S DEATH-A TRUTH WE ALL MUST UNDERSTAND….

 

The death of Sridevi was an extremely tragic episode that jolted the entire nation, including me. Even though I don’t have a direct link with her or with her family and am like any other commoner who just knew Sridevi as an actress and a famous celebrity, the news was still a shocker. For few hours, after my husband broke this news to me, I was in a jittery condition. The whole episode was simply unimaginable, which left my heart in doldrums.

My mind could not accept, that a person who is so fit, is extremely disciplined, so full of life, never had a history of illness and most importantly was so young, can die like this. I had consistent thoughts that how could someone, so rich and famous; having an access to all the facilities in the world, succumb to such a helpless death, where she could not even get an instant medical support and be saved.

As per medical standards, such things can happen to people who have a sedentary life style, are not health conscious and constantly abuse their body because of bad habits, but for someone who had never indulged in anything like this, followed a regular health regime and was a classical dancer; explaining her death is a little difficult . Leave aside others, even the medical fraternity cannot affirm the valid reasons for this tragic incidence.

Whenever such events happen, people indulge in baseless speculations and theories, but no one goes to the core reason behind it; that of the universal theory of the presence of the divine force within and all around us ; something that each human must comprehend.

No one in this world can explain and predict the two most important phenomena; of life and death. There are many people who boast of knowing the future and other important events of life, but they all tend to fool others. The fact is that, though God has bestowed the humans with many powers but has kept the advent of birth and death in HIS own hands. Thus, no human can predict or know when it will happen. If humans had the power to know these two most important phenomena of their life, they would have surely misused these powers and someone so influential like Sridevi would have known that this was coming; she would not have been dancing in a wedding, few days before her death.

Her death is a true example of what a freak incidence can be and truly explains just one eternal truth; that indisputably, this world is run by a divine force, which is the reason behind everything that is happening in this world. Whatever happens in our life and around us is due to this force and its transcendental powers.

The humans have done innumerable scientific discoveries but the fact is that there is only one force which controls everything. Although many human beings do not believe this fact and consider themselves to be the creator of their fortunes and their life, but that’s not the case. The fact is that there is only one power that is running the complete show and it is incidences like these that time and again prove its presence and true importance.

If that was not the case, than what else can explain the events in a person’s life where one moment he or she is hale and hearty, is happily enjoying the life and days later succumbs to an unexplainable death. The fact is that the number of breaths each one of us will breathe on this earth are pre-decided and as soon as they end, the consciousness leaves the body; leaving the person nothing more than a piece of flesh. This consciousness which is a sign of life , is the proof of the presence of God in each human being and thus as soon it is lost, everything comes to an end. The person leaves everything belonging to him or her as it is and no one; the doctors or the loved ones can stop this event to happen.

Such tragic moments, thus are the lessons for all to understand; that there is nothing more superior than the divine force, which is managing the entire universe and is the only one who is aware of what will happen next in  life. How much planning one might do, but the moment the time to go comes, there is nobody who can prevent it.

So, believe in this transcendental power and understand that it is the only eternal truth in this world and rest everything is illusion, we keep living with. The sooner we comprehend this fact, the better it is for us.

MAMTA SEHGAL

 

WHAT AN ESCAPE!

 

Alike each day I left home to walk to my office, which is just five minutes away from the house. It was a sunny day and was quite warm, considering that it is just the beginning of March.

I left the society compound and was walking on the main road. The office was across the road so a divider needed to be crossed to reach the other side of the road. I usually crossed the road from the second cut at the divider, but as the heat was mind boggling, I decided to do so from the first cut only. I turned my head right to see if there was any vehicle coming ;there was one and as soon as it passed, I crossed the road and stepped on to the divider.

From there, I stepped down once again on to the road, but this time didn’t pay attention to the truck which was coming from the left. The speeding truck brush passed me and its proximity was nerve-racking. It passed like a wind and left me totally numb. I couldn’t discern what had just happened or could have happened and this realization came only after I reached the other side of the road. What an escape, I thought to myself?

I was so appalled that I kept walking and started deliberating that how on earth I escaped such an accident. I felt a presence of a force besides me, which protected me from such a fatal mishap. There was a paper-thin difference between me and the rushing truck and it would have just run over me, but the divine force held me and protected me. If it was not for this marvel, it would have surely been the end for me.

For few hours after the incidence, it still flashed in front of my eyes and gave me jitters but along with it, also gave me the beautiful feeling of experiencing the presence of the divine force by my side. I was overwhelmed to reckon with the force, which most people are never able to do all their life.

Lots of people experience such things but never acknowledge the eternal truth. But the fact is that as soon as we start believing this force, it starts showing the signs of its presence. So be blessed and increase your faith to experience such wonders and recognize the divine presence in your life.

Mamta Sehgal.

 

EVERY CREATION OF GOD IS RELEVANT

 

Wheat flour is one of the most essential food components that is used in different forms in kitchens across the world. But the fact that all of us are aware of is, that it cannot be used as it is, i.e. in its dry form and has to be prepared in a specific way in order to make it edible. The dry flour has to be kneaded into dough and only then can it be used. But this does not at all imply that the dry flour has no relevance; it is equally important. In order to use the kneaded dough, it is essential to make use of the dry flour in order to get a desired shape, which is extremely difficult otherwise. This is a common phenomenon that all of us or at least all the women experience each day in their life. So in true sense, the dry flour is as important as the wet flour in the dough form and both complement each other.

This is just one example and there are many like these that we come across each day. If sunlight is important so is the shade, if summers are important so are the winters, if salt is important so is the sugar, if days are important so are the nights, if  sweet is important so is the sour and so on and so forth; there are endless examples like these.

Everything that we see, experience and use in our life has been created by God. The Power above is the nucleus of all the things that exist and hence a human being should not claim to be the creator of anything. The entire nature and all its creations which are there from time immemorial are created by God. HE creates, maintains and annihilates everything, as and when it’s time comes and humans are just the via media designated by God to take care of all the creations that HE has  created .

Another important fact is that nothing in this universe is irrelevant, whether it is the smallest of the insects or the wildest of the plants. All the flora, fauna, plants, animals, any living or non-living things, seasons, weathers, anything that we see around us or experience is relevant for the mutual existence of all the creatures in this world. Each and everything that exists is imbibed with some qualities which are also useful for the survival of the others; living or non-living. An amazing example of this is termite; it is considered to be extremely harmful for the wood and various things made out of it, that we use in our households but if we happen to go to a jungle, we will notice that all over the jungle, there are heaps of termite; some of them even looking as miniature trees and is extremely important for the maintenance of all the flora and fauna that exists in the forest. Amazing! Isn’t it?

Hence, everything that exists in this world is relevant and there is nothing, not even the smallest of the particle that floats in ether, which is irrelevant. So instead of  considering ourselves the sole cause for everything in our lives ,we should be aware of the reality that everything is created by God and is relevant and should respect the presence of everyone and everything in life .

Mamta Sehgal.

WOMEN…

WOMEN…

Women, you are so beautiful,                                                                                                            not just superficially but in real.                                                                                                    You are the chosen one,                                                                                                            entrusted with the most difficult task under the sun.

The Architect has made you the creator,                                                                                because He knows there is no one,who can play the role better.                                                The mother, the sister, the daughter and the wife,                                                                    you enact all the roles with equal strive,                                                                                      nurturing all relations with love and care,                                                                                      never considering, how in return you are cared.

History is the witness,                                                                                                                        how you have being put into arduous situations,                                                                            and have been misjudged,                                                                                                                    but you have never fudged.                                                                                                                  You have always passed the grueling tests                                                                                  and have proved that you are the best.

There are many hidden qualities that you possess,                                                                      which no one can even assess.                                                                                                        You silently fulfill everyone’s needs,                                                                                                  but never succumb to any greed;                                                                                                  the greed of receiving something in return.                                                                              And all that you ask for is affection and love.

Women, you are truly the God’s finest creations,                                                                    nurturing everyone with your real emotions and selfless adoration.

Women, you are the best.

Mamta Sehgal.

WHEN HIS BLESSINGS ARE APPARENT

 

A birthday is a special day, which reminds us that one more year of our life has gone and another year with new hopes and promises has begun. Hence, it is undoubtedly an important day and should be spent distinctively. But, many people think otherwise; they feel there is nothing exclusive about a birthday and it is just another day of life.

But I think differently and thus each year, try to plan something special for this day and feel depressed if I am not able to do so. By Almighty’s grace, for past few years I have been able to fulfill my desire of spending the day in a special manner, but this year was extraordinary.

My birthday came on a weekday; a working day for all. My husband had his office and my son too was away; working in Mumbai, so he could not plan a visit to Delhi. Resultantly , I assumed that I will have to make my own plans as I could not let the day pass off randomly. I kept on thinking as to what I should do in order to make the day worthwhile. For a spiritual connect, I thought of visiting some religious destinations in the city, but going there all by myself made me a little jittery. On second thoughts, I planned to spend the day in some self-indulgence.

Two days before the birthday, as I was deliberating my options, my husband randomly mentioned the logistics of going to Vrindavan; the abode of Sri Krishna; my Lord and my protector. There was a sudden spark in me and I was overwhelmed by the idea. I thought to myself that I was contemplating going to a temple in Delhi but could not plan as I was hesitant in going alone, so Almighty made a better plan for me in order to fructify my thoughts. Never in my dreams had I thought that I will be so blessed to spend my birthday at the abode of the all eternal Sri Krishna and will be able to take HIS blessings like this. I was delirious and was unable to believe that I was actually so sanctified.

Sitting in everyone’s heart, God is aware of the thoughts that each one of us carry and fulfills everyone’s wishes sooner or later ,but how my wishes were being fulfilled so fast, was overpowering. I was astounded by the way Almighty fructified them and that too in such a grand way. The feelings that I had at that moment were and are unexplainable. I couldn’t believe that my prayers were heard like this and the thoughts that I nurtured in my mind were being actualized.

Never before in my life I had a birthday spent so well and the whole experience left me with a strong feeling of the presence of the divine force around me, which was totally overwhelming.

Mamta Sehgal