Life is all about expectations. At each stage of our life we expect things from the people around us. We expect a certain outcome to everything and every situation that life puts us in. We expect things to happen our own way. But most of the time it doesn’t happen the way we want it to be and that puts us into lamentation and solitude.
When it comes to people’s behavior towards us, we expect it to happen in a particular manner, which is suitable just to us, but sadly it never happens. We are put into the many abominable situations because of people and it becomes difficult to handle such situations and thus stress erupts.
What is the solution to this problem that each day brings us to? The easiest way to overcome this problem is to remove all ‘EXPECTATIONS’ and follow the mantra of ‘ACCEPTANCE’.
Whether it is the people, their behavior, or situations, we should stop expecting anything from anyone and should start accepting the way people or situations are. We should accept the fact that we can in no way change the people or their behavior or the situations around us and we have to accept them as they are, and it is only then that we can buy our piece. Always remember, it is the clash between our expectations and acceptance that causes the pain and unrest in our life.
Lets take the example of our personal life. We have our family members, domestic helps, friends, and so many people we meet each day and find each one of them having a peculiar way of conduct and behavior. There are times we do not like the way a particular person behaves or his/her habits. Each day we expect them to behave in an opposite manner but nothing changes. The more we see them and expect them to behave in a specific manner, the more we get irritated. Nothing changes in them but it surely affects us, because of our irritation towards their demeanor. The more we try changing them the more frustrated we become. So the question is that how can we overcome this frustration? The easiest way is to accept things as they are and ignore whatever is happening around us. When we start doing that, our attention is focused on our own acts, rather than the acts people indulge in. It makes life pretty much easier than what we had made it into.
There is another example I would like to mention here. Imagine it’s a pleasant evening and we are sitting in our lawn reading a book of our interest. Few minutes later someone in the neighborhood starts playing loud music, and all our attention is diverted towards that music and starts to irritate us, so much so that we loose all attention from the book and start to think of that music and how we can stop it. The more we think about it, the more annoying it becomes and we instantly loose our peace of mind. So how can we bring ourselves out of this situation? -By acceptance. We have to tune our mind to ignore the music, prevent it from bothering us, and try to concentrate on our read and the pleasant weather that surrounds us. We have to accept the fact that someone is indulging in something they like. The moment we accept this fact, all our annoyance vanishes and the same music sounds soothing to our ears.
Hence think what will you choose-EXPECTATION OR ACCEPTANCE, to make your life peaceful and stress free.