When should we start becoming responsible for our acts and are totally aware of what we say and do?
There are seven stages in a human’s life-Creation or birth, Growth or childhood, Exploration or adolescence, Establishment or young adulthood, Maintenance or middle adulthood, Decline or old age and finally, Departure or death.
Around the world, as per a rough estimate, there must be about 40% humans who pass thru all the seven stages of life, but the rest just see them partially. Some witness only the first stage; they die at the time of birth. Others see only the first two stages and die in their childhood because of some birth disorders or accidents. And rest may see either three, four or five stages and may succumb to an untimely death in their adolescence, young adulthood or middle adulthood respectively and the reasons may be many; disease, freak accidents or instant or unexplained deaths.
So, it is not necessary that every human will live a complete life and will witness all stages of life. No two individuals or their lives are similar and every human leads a life which is different than the one the other human leads. Some have a smooth and comfortable life, while others keep struggling all their life and there are no valid reasons for the difference in the two lives. So no comparisons should be drawn and no questions should be asked as the truth is that each individual has to face what is written in his/her destiny. Hence, irrespective of how many years one has, all an individual needs to do is to live those years in an ideal manner, in order to accumulate good karma in this life at least.
Lucky are those who get to see all the seven stages of life and live a complete life because around the world, there are millions of people who witness a partial life and are not so fortunate to live a long, healthy, happy and a fruitful life. But out of the millions who live a complete life, how many take the benefit of such a long life? Do all of them lead a purposeful life or completely waste the opportunity which is bestowed on them?
Rightfully, when someone gets the chance to live a life in full circle, than they should take the responsibility of indulging in exemplary acts and should give special attention to their conduct. They should take a note of what they speak and do because their acts are lessons for the young and who look up to them for optimal actions. They ought to be mature enough not to indulge in anything which is unworthy. They need to live an ideal life and indulge in actions of high standards because it is only then that they will be able to fulfill the real purpose of a long life that God has bestowed on them.
Now this is a precarious situation, because as a general practice, good or bad, a human develops all the habits in his/her youth and these habits stay with the person as he/she grows in age. As a matter of fact, habits which are inculcated at a young age, if not controlled, become rigid and uncontrollable with age. There is famous saying, `Aadataan, shahadataan jaan shariraan naal’, which means that whatever habits we have in our young age, they never change and remain as it is till our old age and culminate only with our death.
Hence, it is of extreme importance that we take a note of our habits and rectify them when we are still young. We should see to it that our acts, fixations, mannerisms are ideal. We should be thoughtful of what we speak and should see to it that our words do not hurt anybody. We should also see that our conduct is not self-centered, self-focused and is not forced on others. We should not live in a superiority complex, considering others worthless and our wrong habits should not be a cause of stress for others.
We must not carry a meaningless ego and should comprehend that there is a superior power which is governing everything and nobody knows when the tables will turn and the curtains will be drawn. Hence, in case our acts are constantly creating stress for others, than we must try to change them immediately. We should be introspective and should try to improve our behavior, because if we don’t do so and keep clinging to our habits than more than anyone else we will be inflicting harm to our own self.They will become a permanent feature of our character and as we grow, their intensity will too grow.
We are able to manage with these habits in our youth, but as we grow in age and become dependent than these habits become extremely annoying and unmanageable. And then there comes a time when others’ are forced to pin-point these and it becomes a point of contention for all. We find it insulting and feel that the others are disrespectful, but in reality, that is not the case; the fact is that the degree of the wrong conduct increases so much that the others are forced to retaliate.
We are blessed with a human life for a reason; so that we get to know our real self, lead a purposeful life and understand the real purpose of our existence, which is to know the Almighty and then return to the abode of God .We can’t waste our life by living it aimlessly and engrossing ourselves in meaningless arguments and discussions and not doing anything pertinent.
However, sadly the ill habits that we develop become a part of our conduct as we grow and we start thinking that it is the right way and there is nothing wrong in our conduct and that is why there is no reason for us to change. In fact we try to force our conduct and opinions on others too and those who fail to match our levels become antipodal for us.
Sadly,this behavior takes us nowhere and we just add a bulk of bad karma in this life and face it’s consequences in this or in our next life. So, in short we waste our entire life in reckless activities.
Whatever people may say, but what people do in their old age is the reflection of what they did in their youth. If one is patient, thoughtful and considerate in the young age than they will remain the same in their old age too but if one is self-centrist, egoistic and non-considerate in his/her youth than the same behavior will be there in old-age too. And the worst is that this behavior adds to our bad karma and does not allow us to get out of the cycle of birth and death in this life and makes us liable to get a life of any one of the 84,00,000 species ;which may or may not be of a human.
So,be introspective and try and control your conduct and habits in your youth only, so that if you are blessed to reach the last stages of your life having an ideal conduct, than you pass your old age with respect and dignity and lead a quintessential life.