THE QUIETER YOU BECOME, THE MORE YOU ARE ABLE TO HEAR.

I always feel that with the passage of time and with each growing year, I have become quieter and have lost the urge to indulge in any meaningless discussion or conversations. Such indulgence, I feel, is a waste of time as well as energy; which should be rather used in a more sensible manner. So, where on one hand I feel happy about the fact that I am using my energies positively, on the other, carry many thoughts that incessantly bother me. The thought that is it the right thing to do? Is it appropriate when I do not at all talk or feel like talking to anyone? What will the people think about me? Will they think that I am too conceited? Will God punish me for this behaviour and will it become my bad karma?

Lots of such thoughts occur and occupy my mind and put me in a constant dilemma.

Fortunately, though, few days back, I came across this beautiful quote by the famous poet, Rumi, which said- `THE QUIETER YOU BECOME, THE MORE YOU ARE ABLE TO HEAR’ and it cleared all my illusions and apprehensions and reassured me that I am on the right path and there is nothing wrong in my demeanor.

We all must understand that the most important thing in life is to have the knowledge and the awareness of our inner self;the knowledge that if we are able to understand our true conscience, we can get all our answers from within. Our inner self is the only true guiding force which can solve all our problems and then there is no need to wander here and there. But to achieve all this, we need to be quieter in order to hear and acknowledge this voice that comes from within.

In general, all day long, all the humans are deeply engrossed in many endless conversations; most of which are senseless and only bring them into the trap of jealously, anger and anxiousness. Such conversations keep them so occupied that they forget to indulge in any rightful things or acts. There is no self introspection and thus no understanding of the truth and resultantly, all there life is spent in the nescience.

Hence, if we really want to understand the true realities of life and that of our inner self and want to sincerely listen to the voice within, than we surely need to become quieter with each passing day. We have to forbid ourselves from worthless talking and have to spend more time in listening to what our inner voice wants to tell us. If we remain silent than these inner sounds and the voice would become clearer. But if we keep ourselves busy in trivial talking, than we create so many futile sounds around us which prevent us from hearing the most important sound of our life and  take us far way from all the consequential things of life and just lead us to worthless engagements.

The knowledge of self is highly crucial because it helps us to understand the real power of the all eternal Almighty and we will only be able to have it when we train our self to speak less ,in order to hear the most significant sound in life; the sound of the voice within.

Mamta Sehgal.

 

 

 

 

WOMEN…

Women, you are so beautiful,                                                                                                                   not just superficially but in real.                                                                                                               You are the chosen one,                                                                                                                         entrusted with the most difficult task under the sun.                                                                         The Architect has made you the creator,                                                                                             because He knows there is no one, who can play the role better.

The mother, the sister, the daughter and the wife,                                                                                you enact all the roles with equal strive,                                                                                           nurturing all relations with love and care,                                                                                              never considering how in return you are cared.

History is the witness,                                                                                                                                   how you have being put into arduous situations,                                                                                   and have been misjudged,                                                                                                                         but you have never fudged.                                                                                                                             You have always passed the grueling tests                                                                                         and have proved that you are the best.

There are many hidden qualities that you possess,                                                                               which no one can even assess.                                                                                                                       You silently fulfill everyone’s needs,                                                                                                       but never succumb to any greed;                                                                                                            the greed of receiving something in return.                                                                                       And all that you ask for is affection and love.

Women, you are truly the God’s finest creations,                                                                     nurturing everyone with your real emotions and selfless adoration.

Women, you are the best.

Mamta Sehgal.

LIFE

What is life?                                                                                                                                                       A bucket full of lies,                                                                                                                                         lies which lead us to dreams,                                                                                                                 which are only illusions, it seems.                                                                                                       Dreams which keep us away from the truth,                                                                                           and make us lead a life of untruth.

More than half our life, we spend in nesceince,                                                                                   never caring to understand the actual science,                                                                                 and when the realizations sets in,                                                                                                           the actual truth peeps in,                                                                                                                                 it is then we recognize the true realities of life.

Realism that all is delusion,                                                                                                                           and awareness of the actual self is the only conclusion.                                                                 Realism that everything is within; the answers,the guiding force,                                             the source of light,                                                                                                                                       and realism that this  is not the destination but just the flight.

And that is when we start living a life which is real,                                                                         far away from all the thoughts which till now were totally unreal.                                                   A life in which we acquaint ourselves of our inner conscience,                                                   and fruitfully spend the remaining life in transcendence.

Mamta Sehgal.

 

FREEDOM FROM THE CLUTCHES OF MAYA

All of us at some point in our life must have experienced the activities of the birds, insects or animals while they make an attempt to catch their prey. As a general practice, the minute an animal catches its prey, all the others of the same breed, start following it and this desperate bid to possess the catch causes anger, anxiety, hatred and revenge. There are two scenarios in this; one, the animal continues with the clash and two, it decides to abdicate. The first scenario, undoubtedly causes immense anxiety, but the moment, the animal decides otherwise, there is absolute peace as all the other animals stop following the animal in question and look for other avenues to find food for them; bringing an end to the mutual animosity.

So, till the time, the animal is holding on to the prey, which it acquires with extreme difficulty, it feels entrapped but as soon the difficult decision to part with it is taken ,the other animals retreat, creating aplenty free space for the animal to move about, bringing in a sense of complete freedom to decide the future course.

This act of the insects, birds or the animals is a powerful example for the human beings to follow. In our life, too, till the time we have a stern sense of belonging towards many material things, which we falsely claim to be ours, keep holding on to the grudges against people, keep sulking about the things we dislike about them, keep bothering ourselves because of the wrong behavior of the others, we are entrapped in the clutches of maya and are surrounded by all the wrong people in life.

But, the moment we let go of our thoughts & grudges which originate from others and start understanding that all the undesired people around us are simply irrelevant and unimportant for our existence, and it is thus pointless to waste our energy on them, we are in an absolute renewed state of mind. The decision is tough because we have nurtured this thought process all our life and keep clinging to it, but when we realize the realities of life and find the rest immaterial, and stop reacting and discussing about them, we are able to clear all the clutter, creating a lot of breathable space around us. A mere change of mind brings us to a state where there is boundless freedom to think and act, resulting in immense positivity and immeasurable peace of mind.

The most difficult thing in life is to let go of our rigid fixations and mannerisms and that is why all our life, in spite of being aware of the things that put us in trouble and bring us distress, we still keep letting them afflict us. But the point we comprehend the truth and recognize their worthlessness, we are automatically freed from a lot of agony and ineffectual disposition and lead a peaceful life.

Mamta Sehgal.

LIVING IN STRESS

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Life is a journey where we all are mere travelers walking on different paths. On our odyssey, all of us have to tread good as well as bad paths and there is nobody on this earth who is able to trek on an absolute smooth track throughout his/her life.

Life, thru the ups and downs it shows in its varied paths, teaches every individual various lessons. While some individuals understand the reality and take things as they come to them, there are many, on the other hand who get stressful, even because of the smallest issues.

The intelligent people always remain poised and calm, never take the burden of unnecessary stress and are always cheerful and at peace with them. But, the people who refuse to understand the reality of life are always stressful, irrespective of the situation; official, personal or any other non relevant issue.

Such people are in constant stress as they get into the habit of making issues out of the non-issues too. Leave aside the bigger ones; they get hyper about even the smallest of the matters. They are stressful about travelling & leaving home, about getting late to reach a destination, about things not happening their way and even by the non-availability of the support staff. Instead of managing things coolly they are always hyper no matter what the time and situation is in the life. They are stressed about even the minutest illnesses and start thinking of the extremes in that too. Not only in illness but in every single issue of life they think of the extremes and thus get into the negative mode of thinking. More so, because of the fear of things happening to them, they are always at a denial mode and thus refuse to enjoy their life even when they can very well do it.

By having this kind of thought process such people not only affect themselves but also their immediate relations as it affects their health and leads to an obsessive disorder which becomes a part of their nature and is self deteriorating.

‘All our life we keep saying it’s too early and then one day it becomes too late’, is a famous saying holding such deep meaning. Truly speaking, this is the real thought process of many of us. We keep on delaying things because of our irrelevant fears and then one day we realize it has become too late to accomplish those things.

Life is a celebration and thus should be enjoyed each moment. Things should be taken a little easy and in their stride, because everything will happen as destined and nothing before time. Problems are a part of our life and we have to face them with calmness and restrain, so that they do not disturb our peace of mind. Worrying and getting stressed about the non relevant issues is absurd and we should learn to take things lightly and try to be in peace.

People who remain calm in every situation have a very peaceful appearance and are able to pass thru with ease even the most difficult times of their lives. But people who always live in stress worsen the difficult situations they face and unnecessarily prolong them creating an aura of stress around themselves, which after a certain period starts reflecting in their persona too.

God has left a lot of things in our hands and He makes sure that we have the best of everything, but if in spite of everything if we are adamant to spoil our life than nobody can help us. So, try to take the life easy and enjoy each moment as it comes to you with cheerfulness so that the life for us becomes the bed of roses and not the path of thorns.

Mamta Sehgal.

WHY SHOULD WE PAY FOR WHAT OTHERS DO?

Each day of our life, we come across and deal with so many different types of people. Some people leave a positive impact and a mark on our life but there are others, who in spite of all our efforts make us feel depressed and lead us to a  state of stressful mind.

The number of positive people in our life are meager and are rare to find. But the list of people who spread negativity and leave us distressed because of their behavior is endless and some of them are an inevitable part of our life.

Such people, because of their self-centered approach, are only concerned about their own well-being and are not bothered about what others want and feel. They are too annoying, as in spite of repeated avowal of their mistakes they never budge from their actions, leaving the other person in a state of dismay.And that is why, how much the other person may try but beyond a point it becomes extremely difficult to keep one’s peace of mind intact while dealing with such people. No matter how balanced one tries to be, the other person is so rigid in his/her actions that it becomes impossible to handle them.

We all know that whether good or bad, every individual is accumulating his/her karmas in whatever actions one does. The persons, who are adamant in their behavior, never realize this and are thus not bothered about their behavior towards others and its resultant karmas.

But the others ,who are the sufferers and the takers of this uncalled for behavior are stuck up but of no fault of theirs .Such people, even after their constant efforts of been non-reactive to the atrocious actions of others, get into situations where they are forced to react, get angry and as a result create bad karmas for themselves. Thus,sadly, the other people’s demeanor creates wrong karmas for them too.

No matter how ideal and perfect we may be but in the end we are humans and are bound to get carried away by annoying situations, get irritated and indulge in acts which add to the bad karmas for us, which we have to repay in this or in our next life.

My question to all and to my inner self is that,` Why should we pay for what others do?’Why should we pay for no fault of ours and face the resultant affect of our forced wrong karmas?’ This constant introspection saddens me and worries me that though we always try to be pragmatic in our approach towards the life events and our conduct towards others, but still, there are forced actions which put us in abominable situations , in which there is no fault of ours and thus we should not be held liable for such acts in either this life or in the future life .

The power above us is always sitting in our heart and knows what we do and feel, so we should never be accredited for any forced wrong doings on our part and not be punished for the fault of others. We should thus, ideally, be held responsible only for our own intentional karmas and not for the one’s which are imposed on us by others.

Mamta Sehgal.

 

 

BE LIKE AN OCEAN

As per Chapter II ,text 70,of Bhagwat Gita-‘A person who is not disturbed by the incessant flow of desires that enters the mind ,like the rivers into the ocean, which is ever being filled, but is always still, can alone achieve peace ,and not the man who strives to satisfy such desires.’

The vast ocean is always filled with water , especially during  the rainy season when the flow of all the rivers into the ocean is at a much larger scale ,but the ocean always remains the same; it flows steadily, it is rarely agitated, never crossing the limits of its brink.

The ocean is beautiful simile for a man fixed in Krishna Consciousness.

As long as one has the material body, the bodily demands for sense gratification will remain but the true devotee of the lord is not disturbed by such desires because of his utmost faith in the Almighty . A Krishna Conscious man is fully satiated because the Lord fulfills all his material necessities. Therefore he is like an ocean, always full in himself/herself. Desires may come to him like the waters of the rivers flowing into the ocean but he is always steady in his activities and is always at peace with himself.

The utmost stabile behavior is the result of his being completely engrossed in the transcendental loving service of the lord. His immense faith and devotion in the Almighty brings in so much of satisfaction that he forgets everything about the sense gratification and is only concerned in satisfying the Lord with his complete devotion .The God on the other hand reciprocates by taking complete care of such a devotee, fulfilling all his needs even without  him asking for them.

On the other hand,a person who is only engrossed in sense enjoyment never attains peace. Though he might have achieved umpteen material successes , but his happiness is superficial and short lived and he is always in the state of anxiousness. He is so self engrossed that he forgets the real purpose of his existence; the service to the Lord and completely fixes himself into the material bondage which results in his complete restlessness.

The lesson which this beautiful text of Bhagwat Gita teaches us is that; as an ocean remains calm and peaceful in all conditions, the human beings too, inspite  of facing all the harsh weathers in their life should remain fully composed, dignified and self assured.But this is only possible when their faith and devotion to the Almighty is unconditional and paramount.

Mamta Sehgal.